Wednesday, February 29, 2012

How To Grow Romance

From the very first minute I knew I was in love all I could think about was him.  What was his favorite color, movie, food, music, it was his happiness that was my goal.  In making him happy I felt happy too.  This is how you grow a romance and keep it alive for thirty eight years and counting.

But for my child life is much, much different and it saddens me daily.

Why?

Romance has asolutely nothing to do with the material things we possess or the money in our bank accounts, you see even the poorest of poor can havea great romance.  I know becuase my parents had a great romance and they struggled to keep four children fed.  No, it's not about money.

It's not about getting your way, making demands, expectations or pouting.  These are the very things that destroy romance.

How to grow romance...

Much To My Frustration

Much to my frustration it appears that my child is doomed to live out his life without ever getting to experience what a true romance is about.  Oh, he's not so different from his peers and today's definition of romance, love and marriage but he is missing out on the one gift we not only receive throughout our lives but also give.

Why you may ask?

Romance and Children

Looking back over the past thirty eight years I realize that I have been much luckier in the romance department than two of my siblings and several good friends.  Romance is just as strong in my marriage today as it was the first night of our honeymoon so naturally I want my child to experience the same joys that come with a great romance and strong marriage.

Without giving myself away the perfect definition of love in expressed very well in a book that written long before our society was born.  I'll give you hint...Love is never selfish etc.

Much to my continued frustration...

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Some People Should Realize

Some people should realize that imaginary is just that, imaginary and not real.  Therefore I submit to you that there is no need to censor any kind of romance book based on the sexual content or characters because none of it is real.

What are your thoughts and opnions please?

Had I Crosssed "the" Line?

Had I crossed "the" line?  Absolutely not!  You see these are just some one's imaginary characters and not real people, vampires or ghosts they are just great stories not real life.  So I could escape into my own mind and experience love, sex and romance in a imaginary world that took me away from reality.

Some people need to realize...

Love, Sex and Romance Novels

Who doesn't love to pick up a romance novel and get lost in the story of love?  From the very first one I read I was hooked, these stories took me places that were to be my future.  You see I started reading them in junior high school and just knew that was what it was really going to be like, sigh.

As I matured so did my interest in reading romance.  Except I will never forget the first sex scene I read, I was astonished and just knew I had crossed a line, not sure which one but I had definitely crossed "the" line. 

Well, had I crossed "The" line.....?

Drawing "the" Line

When I a was lot younger I had all kinds of lines sometimes called boundaries or even limitations. Of course as children we all need boundaries to keep us safe. But as we get older these imposed boundaries become less and less and then as we reach adulthood we pick and choose our own boundaries. Being the person I am I still keep lots of boundaries because for me they help keep from crossing "the" line. For the purpose of this blog the so called "line" is deciding if, when and how does the love and sex in our favorite genre of books cross the line to the point that an individual or group of individuals decide it needs to be censored.

Love, sex and romance novels....

My Return

I have been away from my blog as well as those I enjoy following, because somehow I managed to change a setting in my computer that restricted blogs as well as google. Maybe I should take the hint, NOT. For now I am using the husband's computer which for me is uncomfortable but I shall forge ahead....

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Can We Have Romance Without Sex?

If you are like me and feel that sex completes romance than how in the world do we have romance without sex? My grandmother always told me that sex had very little to do with love or romance. She further explained that if love and romance were required to have sex then that would eliminate the "world's oldest profession." Can't argue with her there. So, as I ponder the question I realize that romance is so much more than the physical.

Was It Romance, Love or Just Plain Sex?

From my grandmother's point of view it was just plain sex because "those" girls were having sex without the benefit of feeling romantic or being in love. Perhaps it was the best kind of sex, you know just plain old raw sex for the fun of it. I don't think my grandmother would agree with me but personally and think sex completes romance. Since I write erotica my chacters are having sex but I find it most interesting that it is always in a very romantic setting and they do have deep feelings for one another. So, can we have romance without sex?

Can We Have Romance Without Sex?

Most of us have people in our lives who mold us as we grow up, for me it was my maternal Grandmother. She was born in 1899 in Louisville Kentucky, a true Southern Lady her whole life. She is the one who taught me, among other things, the social graces such as chewing gum is unlady like and to sit still in church. Well, she was a victim of her time as we all are. She did have very definite ideas about romance, love and sex. From her perspective romance first, then love and finally sex. Absolutely no sex without those all important wedding vows or one would suffer the stigma of becoming one of "those" girls. When I did get to the point in my life where boys were becoming less annoying I decided it was time to get the whole definition of the expression "one of those girls". If you have not guessed yet "those" girls were the ones who threw caution to wind dove into love in all it's glory. But, was it romance, love or just plain sex?

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Is Rembering A Bad Thing?

So, do I think remembering back when romance was with a different person, different time and different place is a bad thing? No, romance changes as we change and we should take that with us through out our lives. Rembering back makes today's romance even stronger because it confirms for me that I did make the best choice when I said "I do". But for some of you perhaps you have said "I do" more than once for whatever reason, for you looking back could be bittersweet but still it was romantic for you then even the long term results were not what you expected. Is "I do" necessary for a long term romance?

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Connections

Even though I have not seen any of my past crushes that does not mean I have forgotten them.  We are still connected though the memory of a one time romance.  In other words they are still with me as is the romance they brought into my life.

Is remembering a good think or a bad thing?

Not The Only Person

Surprisingly The Husband is not the only person who brings or has brought romance into my life.  Like most young girls I many crushes in school and yes, even today I think about those and often wonder what ever happened to them and where life took them.

Connections

For Example

As I go about my daily routine of household chores every aspect of what I do has romance tied to it.  Even the simplest of tasks bring the love of my life to mind.  I pass by his home office and smile thinking about what a mess he has in there and should I go organize it, again.  Dinner is always about him and when I shop what special thing can I find to surprise him with for lunch.

But he is not the only person I think about daily...

Who?

Who do you think writes romance?  I think we all do, everyday as we go about our lives, unaware.  But just stop what you are doing and think about what you did today and how romance made have played a part.

For example...